One idle day in Barcelona, John D Martin iii made a comment in casual conversation that changed my perspective on life (a little). I like to keep myself surrounded by people who can do that - it keeps life stimulating, and it broadens my horizons. In fact, that's probably a big part of why I'm married to 'poema de vida'.
We were talking about Egyptian madness and the confused double standards that seem to be wide-spread around the Muslim world, particularly where religion is concerned, when I said to John, "Well, at the end of the day, all these people who take various 'Islamic studies', and display acts of religiosity are just trying to be Better Muslims".
John stopped, looked at me and said "...than everyone else".
Those three words shook up my map of the world. He was right. Many of the people we knew who were pursuing some form of 'Islamic' education, were apparently doing so not only to improve their faith, but were probably also doing so to be better Muslims than everyone else. But why did that startle me? Well, it occured to me... maybe I'm just doing it to be better than everyone else too. This is a little worrying. It reminds me of satan's reply to God, when commanded to bow to Adam. "I'm better than him!"
This made me re-assess why I am really studying Arabic, and reading Qur'an, and praying on a day to day basis. Would I still do those things if it meant not receiving the superficial respect some people give it? Am I just trying to be better than others, as opposed to being humble before God? There's no real way to test this, other than not doing those things, which is probably not a good idea. They form a large part of my personality, and I feel dead inside when I go for a while not doing them. So I'll keep them up, in the hope I don't fall into the same category as Satan.
So, Bravo John! An excellent usage of those NLP meta-model questioning skills ;o)
15 years ago